Valentine’s Day brings upon it so many different experiences. Your outlook on this “Hallmark holiday” likely depends on your relationships, who you’re connected to, how that’s changed over time, whether your relationship has evolved to greater levels of intimacy and understanding, or maybe a greater divide or sense of disconnection.

According to Wikipedia, Valentine’s Day originated as a “Western Christian feast day honoring one or two early saints named Valentinus. Valentine’s Day is recognized as a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and romantic love in many regions around the world, although it is not a public holiday in any country.” It seems the romance part of this is what has stuck more so in our current culture.

With the trends and meanings that have become associated with Valentine’s Day, it has become a reminder to many that they are not where they want to be in their relationships with intimate partners or those they should be or wish they could be closer to. The issue often leads people to show up to my office with so many mixed emotions during this time of year. I have spent a lot of energy, time, money, and focus on learning the most effective and efficient techniques to help others overcome their pain points, whether it be traumas created from life experiences or bumps in the road along their path to in turn create healthier relationships with others as well as themselves.

With this work, it may sound opposite to what is most helpful, but it’s primary to begin to learn how to be okay with yourself, resulting in what many refer to as “loving yourself.” For many, the inner commentary or dialogue they have in their head with themselves is often unrecognized and not always so nice.

Do you notice how you treat yourself or what you say to yourself when you do something that is not what you had planned or hoped for? Do you help yourself or beat yourself up? If it’s the latter, it’s time to slow down, become more aware of how you think, and how these actions affect your life.

If you’re interested in learning more about yourself (likely from a lens you haven’t thought of or regularly use) and how you can get to know yourself better and show up more the way you are wanting to in your life, consider coming to join us for the first in a series of what we are calling our Becoming Aware Project. Our March free workshop will address the first step toward a happier you which is gaining an awareness of what is working in your life and what is not. Come and learn all about The Parts of YOU at our Breese office on March 19 at 6:30 pm. Please register by call/text to 618-322-6424, or emailing as space is limited. We look forward to seeing you then!

Christina Diesen, LCSW is the owner of Solutions 4 Wellness, Inc. with offices in Breese and Mt. Vernon, IL. Chris is passionate about providing an environment of compassion and support to efficiently and effectively help others overcome obstacles and not only survive, but thrive, providing therapeutic services with emphasis on anxiety, trauma and burnout resolution as well as prevention. In addition, she provides engaging educational experiences that enhance quality of life. “Our Mission is to empower people to discover their full potential and create a fulfilling life.”